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Snilegriercep : My ex-wife recently told me that a member of her new household had sexually abused one of the children in the house. There was an investigation but there was no proof, so no legal action was taken. No criminal charges, nothing. I don't want to send my child into that situation, but she has a legal right to joint custody. Since no charges were filed, I feel like I don't have legal ground to stand on. What can I do to keep my 5 year old away from that place?
My child was not the one who was abused.

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Boeolermep : Tell your five year old to call you and tell you or the police if he/she is ever hurt or even touched in a bad way.
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Plaitikepak : Go to court and try to argue that circumstances in the household may not be suitable for a child and living there could hurt him/her. It would help if you are financially stable have a good job and clean record and able to care for the kid. If you are able to have the kid in your house and your able to keep the kid happy or at least happier than the kid is at the mothers house argue that. In court.
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phygieple : You have no legal rights here.

You talk as if you know for a fact that sexual abuse took place. But you don't. There are many false allegations.

What if this was the other way around? Suppose a neighbor was angry with you, and then accused you of molesting her child. It can happen. Would you then be ok with your ex-wife saying that you can't see your child any more.

You can't change custody or visitation based on the accusation of child abuse.

It depends on what evidence there is. In family court you wouldn't need as much evidence as you would need in criminal court. So just because the guy was never charged doesn't mean you can't do anything. But, you need some kind of evidence. If all you have is an accusation, then you don't have enough to do anything.

If you decide to pursue this, then you would really need a lawyer.

A better option might be to handle this out side of court. If your ex-wife believes that the guy is a pedophile, then it would follow that she would want to correct the problem. So you can simply talk to her.
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jgoodlikegp : I have a hard time being happy in life. Every job I have had I hated it. I have either been fired or quit my job and the longest I have lately held on to a job is 4 months. Right now I have been unemployed for a week and half. The reason why I don't like to work is because I don't get along with most people so well. I also don't like the fact that in today's world minimum wage is pretty much slave money. When I think of a job I think of a hoe working for a pimp. You work hard for the money, then you give it all back to bills and food and left with nothing. I'm spoiled you could say my grandma pays my rent but me and my g/f cover all the other bills. My g/f is on social security for bipolar. So she has income I don't. On normal day like now when its night since my life is like a vampire I hang out with my friends in the neighborhood smoking weed till the sun comes up then its back to bed till I awake to see what the next day brings. I worry allot about my life and I just want to make allot money easy way. All my friends just wanna be junkies I don't care about breaking the law to make money. Thought about living a drug dealers life since that's all america likes to do is buy drugs. The only job I would enjoy even if I got paid peanuts or 20 bucks a hour is working at a golf course or doing security at strip club. You are probably shakin your head but I hate working. Girls when I flirt with them at bars tell me grow up your a giant baby. My family cries cause since I'm 24 they think when I'm 30 I'll be dead, homeless, or in & out jail. Any help yahoo please no negativity I get enough that......
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Normagree : Your perspective is what seems to be the problem. Why don't you work on your drug problem first. Did nobody tell you doing drugs is bad?
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doristop : Dude. The answer is simple.
1. Realize YOU are the problem. It is time or you to grow up. You are 24 years old grow up you are NOT A TRENAGER ANYMORE b*tch BE A MAN! Wah! sometimes negativity is a good thing!
2. Start writing down things you are thankful for and realizng how blessed you are for what you have, it is proven that people who are thankful tend to get along with others better, and are more content with life. And if you are truly happy with your girlfriend, stop being a douche and flirting with girls at bars.
3. Stop smoking weed. Marijuana obviously has too strong of a foothold in your life and if you aren't mature enough to not smoke all day and night you shouldnt be using it. Not only is it expensive and you're spending money you DO NOT HAVE APPARENTLY, it definitely contributes to your lack of motivation.
4. Become more involved in activities outside of your comfort zone! Help in soup kitchens and stuff maye you'll realize how lucky you are to have what you have now.
5. Follow a semi-strict schedule! Have a bedtime and know where you will be at certain times in the day. Go to the gym on days your schedule says etc. This will help increase discipline which it looks like you need a lot.
Good luck
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AssulseOwnela : i think that you do need to change and grow up. I've done drugs and drank a lot but you have to realize that it effects more than just you. it effects your family too. they care about you and don't want to see you end up in rehab or jail or even worse dead. work sucks. maybe find something you're really interested in and try to go to school for it? ...
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cetoxydayecor : We live in Kentucky and make about 32000 per year. We have a lot of medical bills in collections (from not having insurance last year) and made the mistake of paying with credit cards we were were trying to stop them from going to collections. Now we are just trying to get out of debt. We've been denied for debt consolidation loans already. Is it true that there are programs that can save you money on taxes?
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CristeCrype : Mike, you appear to have made several mistakes already. Now you are worried about your taxes. I think you need to focus on this step-by-step.

Medical bills in collections are different from, let's say, unpaid credit card debt. You made a big mistake by using credit cards to pay off medical debt.

In general, medical bills that go unpaid are put into collections as a matter of normal business. Medical billing companies are severely restricted in their ability to report medical debt delinquencies to credit reporting agencies. As long as you make an effort to pay SOMETHING on each debt that is in collections EACH MONTH, you should be just fine.

For instance, let's say that you have the following medical debts in collections:

Debt A: Acct# 123 - $ 1,200

Debt B: Acct# 234 - $10,000
Acct# 567 - $ 2,600

Debt C: Act# H23 - $ 5,000

You would need to make monthly payments to FOUR accounts held by THREE companies. Let's say that's $50 per account monthly, or $200. If one month you can only afford $150, then pay two @ $50 each and two @ $25 each for that month.

When you used credit cards to pay off that debt, you did not pay off the debt. You transferred the debt from one account to another account. Furthermore, collection agencies are usually barred from charging interest on medical debts. Credit card companies do not distinguish one kind of debt from any other, and so now you are paying interest when you did not have to.

Debt consolidation loans are usually not worth the trouble -- unless you do it yourself. For instance, you do not got to a place that sells itself as a debt consolidation business.

You go down to the bank and get a loan. You use the proceeds from that loan to pay down your debt. You then pay the bank back. -- That is debt consolidation that makes sense.

Debt consolidation loan houses usually don't lower your debt; they just obscure what is principal repayment and what is interest repayment by negotiating extensions on your debt's maturity dates, or by doing what I said -- paying the debt off themselves and charging you the same amount you would have paid over some longer time period. In short, you will end up paying the same or more (most likely more) through a debt consolidation business.

Paying off your medical debt is a way to save money on your taxes; if you pay off medical debt in sufficient amounts each year, then you can itemize your medical debt payments and deduct them from your tax basis. If you are not keeping track of what medical debt you are paying, then you are doing yourself a disservice come tax time.

I don't know of any "program" with tax benefits. You cannot take out a loan and then deduct the interest portion of your loan repayments from your tax basis.

But, like I said, if you have $10,000 in medical debt, and you pay off $6,000 this year, in general you can deduct that $6,000 from your gross income, reducing your tax basis, and thus either increasing your income tax refund or reducing your income tax liability (however you want to say it).

My advice would be NOT to use credit cards in the future to pay this kind of debt down. Like I said, it's a fiction that you have "paid" off any debt. What you are doing is obscuring what KIND of debt you have.

It'll be much harder three years from now to justify that paying off a credit card = getting a tax deduction for paying off medical debt -- since you are now paying VISA and not HOSPITAL. You probably won't remember what is debt and what is interest; it will be harder to justify, also.

Keep your medical debt with your medical debt. While I believe it is possible that medical debt delinquencies can be put on your credit report, that will not happen immediately. You are generally afforded more time to deal with medical debt. It is common for unpaid medical debt to be sent to collections (because many people do not pay it on time; and, because many of these places are not-for-profit organizations; non-profits may have it written into their bylaws that debt must be placed after some period of time).

Nonprofits may write that into their bylaws because it's fair treatment. It's also because debt placement agencies pay, sometimes, upfront for debt placed with them. This moves receivables from nonprofits' balance sheets and turns it into cash. So, the reason why you find your debt in collections is more of an organization-based business decision than anything. Good luck.
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